Role-playing

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As I have said many times in the past, a woman's imagination is her biggest erogenous zone. So stimulating her sexual fantasies is probably the best way to get her turned on. However a lot of men can be embarrassed when attempting any kind of fantasy play in the bedroom. Well, so can women. But if you can break through that embarrassment and give it a try, it can be so, so rewarding. The sex can be extremely hot.

If you're looking for a way to subtly break into role playing sexual fantasies, you might consider starting with cyber sex chatting or sexting. That tends to be easier to handle when starting out because you have the whole sense of anonymity. It's easy when you don't have to watch her face while you're portraying a scenario. After a while of cybering you will be chomping at the bit to get together and start some physical relations.

I find that RPG games are great ways to get into the spirit of sexual role playing. Computer games such as Diablo 2, World of Warcraft, or Neverwinter Nights are good ways to ease into the mindset. But those are very limiting in their sexual fantasies. Dungeons and Dragons, a game played with paper and pencil, is much more malleable to sexual fantasy.

And from there maybe the two of you will feel brave enough to tread into costume territory. My husband and I used to have a joke about a goth cheerleader, so one evening I dressed up like that for him. He was extremely pleased. So tell her what kinds of fantasies turn you on. Got a Librarian desire? Mention it and maybe she'll surprise you one evening!

Don't be afraid to talk to each other about what you like. And don't be afraid to tell each other when you're tired of the fantasy and you want to get back to reality for awhile. It should all be in good fun.